Relationship Communication for Couples: A Practical Guide to Improve Empathy and Learn the Art of Persuasion to Achieve Successful in Relationships. Develop Communications Skills for Couples. by James J. Downes

Author:James J. Downes [Downes, James J.]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2019-12-07T00:00:00+00:00

Nurturing Relationships through Validation

There being a lot of cases of people getting into depression due to challenges in life, having healthy relationships has become a need and not a want. Since days in memorial, people often think that to keep a relationship; active people need to exchange tangible gifts. When he comes home with diamond earrings which have been wrapped in some fine shinning gift paper and tied with a golden ribbon around a bouquet, that is when we say, he is maturing the relationship. The gifts are excellent and always a great gesture, but that is not the strongest wat to connect with someone that you love.

Relationships get deeper depending on how you interact with one another rather than what you can do together as a couple. When you have consistent, thoughtful validation for your partner's thoughts and feelings that is the best gift you could give to your spouse or to anyone that you relate with in any way.

The best memory to relate with validation is in your preschool days. The teacher in her simple dress and probably no spot of makeup (I think they did not apply makeup because of the heavy task of the day), and that teacher is going the extra mile every single day for you. As young kids, activities, like eating, going to the toilet, talking, did not happen so quickly. The preschool teacher, through their sacrifice, did everything to see that we're able to sort ourselves out. One thing the preschool teacher has a skill in is the art of validation. It is through the validation of these teachers that we have since grown to be better people. Most probably in your entire life, that is the time you can refer to as having the true meaning of validation. Validation gives you that feeling of someone is listening to you with a clear intention of understanding you.

In a relationship, validation gives the same idea as the experience you go through in preschool. When your spouse comes home very tired, but they still have an extra breath and energy to explain how their day was or share their feelings, it is important that you stay with them in that session and honor their experience. Validation allows you to join your partner's world and see things from their point of view. You show your partner that you sincerely understand and accept their thoughts and feelings, just the way they are. When you create such interactions with your partner, help a couple to feel less upset, less vulnerable, and less despised. When you invalidate your partner, you make them have a feeling of criticization, dismissal, and contempt from you.

For a successful relationship, it is healthy to share your inner world with your partner. Take time and share your real thoughts, feelings, and desires giving each other a patient listening ear. Sharing a validating interaction with your spouse helps to build trust and intimacy hence making the relationship to last.

The validating concept may seem an easy and straightforward task, but it is often tricky to many partners.

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